Comments on: Why do you whine? http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/ I'm Kind of a Big Deal Sun, 01 Aug 2010 01:30:52 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-70208 Neil Patel Sat, 24 Jul 2010 01:18:26 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-70208 It takes at least 30 days to create a habit. It takes at least 30 days to create a habit.

]]> By: Inner Game http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-69947 Inner Game Sun, 18 Jul 2010 05:36:40 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-69947 looing the thing from different perspectives and with a cool head is the most important thing, but if you dont have that habit it takes time to get used to it looing the thing from different perspectives and with a cool head is the most important thing, but if you dont have that habit it takes time to get used to it

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-66660 Neil Patel Fri, 30 Apr 2010 19:31:36 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-66660 Lol, thanks K. It's amazing of you to battle that challenge and over power it... good for you. Good luck! Lol, thanks K. It’s amazing of you to battle that challenge and over power it… good for you. Good luck!

]]> By: K. Dunnigan http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-66529 K. Dunnigan Mon, 26 Apr 2010 20:25:30 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-66529 Thank you, I feel better now. I found this website hoping to get a chance to vent. I don't usually whine, but I really wanted to. I always try to present a problem to whomever it concerns and deal with it and move on. But lately, all I want to do is wallow in the muck. I've been diagnosed as bipolar and growing up an only child with that problem has been hard. I had no way to vent... ever with mother working and father working or just not there (he's bipolar too btw). I've had a journey through counseling so I had learned finally to change the way I deal with things and how I talk to people. I had once been a monster in my own mind... thinking I was worthless, never speaking up for myself, changing into someone who yelled and screamed to get my way... it was terrible. But I don't call myself bipolar anymore; I am a human with flaws like everyone else just trying to get through life with as much accomplished as possible. Productivity isn't always accomplished unless you look past the goal. Sometimes your own goals get in the way... ie. wasn't meant to be... but look at the good that comes from effort of caring to make a difference. 'Nough said...lol Thank you all for this wonderful healing session. :D Thank you, I feel better now. I found this website hoping to get a chance to vent. I don’t usually whine, but I really wanted to. I always try to present a problem to whomever it concerns and deal with it and move on. But lately, all I want to do is wallow in the muck. I’ve been diagnosed as bipolar and growing up an only child with that problem has been hard. I had no way to vent… ever with mother working and father working or just not there (he’s bipolar too btw). I’ve had a journey through counseling so I had learned finally to change the way I deal with things and how I talk to people. I had once been a monster in my own mind… thinking I was worthless, never speaking up for myself, changing into someone who yelled and screamed to get my way… it was terrible. But I don’t call myself bipolar anymore; I am a human with flaws like everyone else just trying to get through life with as much accomplished as possible. Productivity isn’t always accomplished unless you look past the goal. Sometimes your own goals get in the way… ie. wasn’t meant to be… but look at the good that comes from effort of caring to make a difference.
‘Nough said…lol
Thank you all for this wonderful healing session. :D

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-62915 Neil Patel Thu, 18 Feb 2010 07:50:03 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-62915 stop trying to do things your way... admit that you are not always right. learn to keep your ego in check. stop trying to do things your way… admit that you are not always right. learn to keep your ego in check.

]]> By: jill http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-62864 jill Thu, 18 Feb 2010 01:22:10 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-62864 You sound like a great guy and I really admire you... I surfed the internet in hope to find help for myself... I always whine and it is really embarrassing to admit that, but it is true!!! I wish it is not and I wish I stop whining! I don't know how. Sometimes I though - how come my husband doesn't take me seriously and he always treats me like a child, instead of his woman... But the truth is - I act like a child!!! Who can blame him?! I just want to stop whining... And I just don't know how... You sound like a great guy and I really admire you… I surfed the internet in hope to find help for myself… I always whine and it is really embarrassing to admit that, but it is true!!! I wish it is not and I wish I stop whining! I don’t know how. Sometimes I though – how come my husband doesn’t take me seriously and he always treats me like a child, instead of his woman… But the truth is – I act like a child!!! Who can blame him?!
I just want to stop whining… And I just don’t know how…

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-61324 Neil Patel Wed, 20 Jan 2010 14:52:53 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-61324 Sorry to hear about your father Hugo. That's amazing that you were able to bounce back quickly and understand that you need move forward. Sorry to hear about your father Hugo. That’s amazing that you were able to bounce back quickly and understand that you need move forward.

]]> By: Hugo Chikamori http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-61174 Hugo Chikamori Fri, 15 Jan 2010 21:49:25 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-61174 Hey, Neil, Great Post. I had a life-changing event that knocked me out of my "woe is me; I wanna whine about how my life sucks" repetitive subroutine. And man, was I ever bad with that. When my father passed away this December, I got the most enlightening revelation in my life. "All life's problems are inconsequential when compared to losing someone you love." What matters is how you live your life. You live your life the best way that you can; full out, stick on throttle at "maximum afterburner" ~ sorry about my aviation analogies. I keep saying my father changed my life. With his passing he passed onto me his inner strength or gave me the key to unlocking my own. So now I have no time for whiners. I may not be at my success level that I want to be yet. But every problem in life is surmountable with varying degrees of effort and I know that if I put my mind to it, I will achieve that success. The only time you are stuck with an insurmountable problem is if you don't have the fortitude to put in the effort to overcome that problem. To anyone who might be a whiner, like I used to be. Don't whine, it's just a waste of energy. Hey, Neil,

Great Post.

I had a life-changing event that knocked me out of my “woe is me; I wanna whine about how my life sucks” repetitive subroutine. And man, was I ever bad with that.

When my father passed away this December, I got the most enlightening revelation in my life. “All life’s problems are inconsequential when compared to losing someone you love.” What matters is how you live your life. You live your life the best way that you can; full out, stick on throttle at “maximum afterburner” ~ sorry about my aviation analogies.

I keep saying my father changed my life. With his passing he passed onto me his inner strength or gave me the key to unlocking my own. So now I have no time for whiners. I may not be at my success level that I want to be yet. But every problem in life is surmountable with varying degrees of effort and I know that if I put my mind to it, I will achieve that success. The only time you are stuck with an insurmountable problem is if you don’t have the fortitude to put in the effort to overcome that problem.

To anyone who might be a whiner, like I used to be. Don’t whine, it’s just a waste of energy.

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-60074 Neil Patel Thu, 24 Dec 2009 05:25:32 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-60074 It all really depends on how they're raised as children...... by their parents! If you don't have kids, make sure you really focus on the psychology of raising them. If you already do, start asap. It all really depends on how they’re raised as children…… by their parents! If you don’t have kids, make sure you really focus on the psychology of raising them. If you already do, start asap.

]]> By: Textbook Rental http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-60026 Textbook Rental Wed, 23 Dec 2009 16:29:13 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-60026 I think there is a corelation between only children and whiners, kids that grow up in a big faimly don't tend to wine as much. Only children tend to get thier own way and when they don't they don't emotionally know how to deal with it. I think there is a corelation between only children and whiners, kids that grow up in a big faimly don’t tend to wine as much. Only children tend to get thier own way and when they don’t they don’t emotionally know how to deal with it.

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-59811 Neil Patel Mon, 21 Dec 2009 06:28:48 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-59811 If you must whine, just do it for like 10 minutes and then cut it out and move forward. That way you get it out of your system. If you must whine, just do it for like 10 minutes and then cut it out and move forward. That way you get it out of your system.

]]> By: Textbook Rental http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-59537 Textbook Rental Fri, 18 Dec 2009 17:33:24 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-59537 Whineing isn't productive but we all have a tendency to fall back into old patterns and not appreciating or havening gratitude for what we already have. Whineing isn’t productive but we all have a tendency to fall back into old patterns and not appreciating or havening gratitude for what we already have.

]]> By: Forget Joe the plumber, it’s all about Jose the lawnmower man! http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-55807 Forget Joe the plumber, it’s all about Jose the lawnmower man! Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:47:09 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-55807 [...] on the other hand is always grateful for what he has and keeps moving forward in life. Instead of whining like Joe, he is trying to solve his [...] [...] on the other hand is always grateful for what he has and keeps moving forward in life. Instead of whining like Joe, he is trying to solve his [...]

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54843 Neil Patel Thu, 05 Nov 2009 03:33:15 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54843 That's great John, at least you grew up knowing that whining is not a good thing. That’s great John, at least you grew up knowing that whining is not a good thing.

]]> By: John http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54753 John Tue, 03 Nov 2009 08:20:45 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54753 The way i grew up whine wasnt alot i had a pretty tough childhood growing up so good thing i dont have that problem. The way i grew up whine wasnt alot i had a pretty tough childhood growing up so good thing i dont have that problem.

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54271 Neil Patel Thu, 22 Oct 2009 00:31:48 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54271 It all depends S, the way you say it... I mean do you come across as bitchy and moany? It all depends S, the way you say it… I mean do you come across as bitchy and moany?

]]> By: S http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54229 S Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:07:05 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-54229 These are all great advices and true too, we all whine some more than others. I do have a question though. If you just have the thoughts about something that's bothering you or you are feeling bluh or whatever but don't speak out, is that still considered complaining/whining? Does it count towards being negative about things just because you are feeling it? S These are all great advices and true too, we all whine some more than others. I do have a question though. If you just have the thoughts about something that’s bothering you or you are feeling bluh or whatever but don’t speak out, is that still considered complaining/whining? Does it count towards being negative about things just because you are feeling it?

S

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-52845 Neil Patel Sat, 12 Sep 2009 17:29:22 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-52845 That's exactly why there are hundreds of thousands of blogs out there, yet only a select few make it. That doesn't even begin to explain online businesses in general. That’s exactly why there are hundreds of thousands of blogs out there, yet only a select few make it. That doesn’t even begin to explain online businesses in general.

]]> By: Filmi http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-52808 Filmi Fri, 11 Sep 2009 09:53:24 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-52808 Most people just talk and never try to walk the talk! Most people just talk and never try to walk the talk!

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-51864 Neil Patel Sat, 29 Aug 2009 22:39:57 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-51864 Right, you appear to be negative in the eyes of other people. Right, you appear to be negative in the eyes of other people.

]]> By: Online College http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-51835 Online College Fri, 28 Aug 2009 22:10:50 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-51835 I have to say I can be a complainer,yet it is something I have been working on this year. I have found that when you complain all the time no one wants to listen or hang around so start looking to the bright side of things! I have to say I can be a complainer,yet it is something I have been working on this year. I have found that when you complain all the time no one wants to listen or hang around so start looking to the bright side of things!

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50900 Neil Patel Sun, 09 Aug 2009 15:24:31 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50900 lol. Yeah, we complain and whine to get attention. Babies just cry since they can't speak, and adults simply whine and complain. Hence the phrase "quit being such a baby" lol. Yeah, we complain and whine to get attention. Babies just cry since they can’t speak, and adults simply whine and complain. Hence the phrase “quit being such a baby”

]]> By: used tires http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50794 used tires Fri, 07 Aug 2009 20:16:00 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50794 Yes people whine a lot. Practically all people do it, as you say, even you do it. You are absolutely right, it does us no good. Whining about the situation won't change it. Yet I guess it's because people like to openly express that they are not happy, possibly for sympathy, possibly because they think it will make them feel better. It reminds me of the other day, when I went to this festival and we were walking around, and it was really hot and humid outside. People keep saying "its soo hot outside, I cant take this anymore, ugh I am sweating so much", etc. I believe I said at one point, jokingly, "Ya know, complaining that it's hot isn't going to make it any cooler" lol, it's so true, but we do it anyways. Humans... Till then, Jean Yes people whine a lot. Practically all people do it, as you say, even you do it. You are absolutely right, it does us no good. Whining about the situation won’t change it. Yet I guess it’s because people like to openly express that they are not happy, possibly for sympathy, possibly because they think it will make them feel better. It reminds me of the other day, when I went to this festival and we were walking around, and it was really hot and humid outside. People keep saying “its soo hot outside, I cant take this anymore, ugh I am sweating so much”, etc. I believe I said at one point, jokingly, “Ya know, complaining that it’s hot isn’t going to make it any cooler” lol, it’s so true, but we do it anyways. Humans…

Till then,

Jean

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50203 Neil Patel Mon, 27 Jul 2009 00:23:16 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50203 Exactly, I'm glad you were able to see that. It's that type of difference which can decide which direction you move towards in your life. Exactly, I’m glad you were able to see that. It’s that type of difference which can decide which direction you move towards in your life.

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50202 Neil Patel Mon, 27 Jul 2009 00:22:26 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-50202 If she decides not to change, get her out of your life because it's obviously affecting you so dearly. If she decides not to change, get her out of your life because it’s obviously affecting you so dearly.

]]> By: z http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-49733 z Wed, 22 Jul 2009 18:35:28 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-49733 Hi Neil, I wanted to get this off my chest...I was surfing "whining" and came across this website...I have been with a woman for 4 years now and all she does is whine, whine about me...Whine about her house, whine about her children...She has been doing this moreso lately than ever, but it never stops...There seems to be a self pity thing going on and childish comments about people not liking her of fitting in with my family...I really don't know what to say about it...She has had some changes in life...Her teenage son lives with his father now...She has changed jobs this year after being with a law firm for 15 years...She whines about the past alot too...Silly things, to me anyway, like how I was that interested in her when we first me, bringing it up 4 years later after I have been there for that long and committed? It's not that I wasn't interested, I like to take things slow...Bottom line, how do I stop it...I tried common sense reinforcement of the "Postive" thing and she always retreats to self pity and whining! Help! Hi Neil,

I wanted to get this off my chest…I was surfing “whining” and came across this website…I have been with a woman for 4 years now and all she does is whine, whine about me…Whine about her house, whine about her children…She has been doing this moreso lately than ever, but it never stops…There seems to be a self pity thing going on and childish comments about people not liking her of fitting in with my family…I really don’t know what to say about it…She has had some changes in life…Her teenage son lives with his father now…She has changed jobs this year after being with a law firm for 15 years…She whines about the past alot too…Silly things, to me anyway, like how I was that interested in her when we first me, bringing it up 4 years later after I have been there for that long and committed? It’s not that I wasn’t interested, I like to take things slow…Bottom line, how do I stop it…I tried common sense reinforcement of the “Postive” thing and she always retreats to self pity and whining! Help!

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-48416 Neil Patel Sun, 31 May 2009 21:13:56 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-48416 Thanks for reading the older posts. There is a lot of great info here, sometimes you just have to dig a bit deep. Thanks for reading the older posts. There is a lot of great info here, sometimes you just have to dig a bit deep.

]]> By: cash loans uk http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-48215 cash loans uk Mon, 25 May 2009 16:26:02 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-48215 I have been going over your posts (backwards) over past few days. I just like the way you bring out subtleties about human behavior and emotions so nicely. Example, most of your suggestions in this article are general ones and mostly people know about them at some level. But to put them so straight forward is an art you master so well. I have been going over your posts (backwards) over past few days. I just like the way you bring out subtleties about human behavior and emotions so nicely. Example, most of your suggestions in this article are general ones and mostly people know about them at some level. But to put them so straight forward is an art you master so well.

]]> By: Neil Patel http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-46132 Neil Patel Mon, 23 Mar 2009 22:08:12 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-46132 Yea, I need to learn to tolerate others better. Yea, I need to learn to tolerate others better.

]]> By: Raimi http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-45892 Raimi Wed, 18 Mar 2009 04:28:05 +0000 http://www.quicksprout.com/2008/05/21/why-do-people-whine/#comment-45892 Bad habit dies hard just keep on tolerate. Bad habit dies hard just keep on tolerate.

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