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By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 17:23:38 +0000

It should so please do share with us your experiences.

By: Ibrahim | ZenCollegeLife.com

Ibrahim | ZenCollegeLife.com — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:39:37 +0000

Pure genius. It makes perfect sense. I’m going to try this as often as possible, and I believe that it will make a serious difference in my life!

By: Beginner’s Guide to Attending Conferences

Beginner’s Guide to Attending Conferences — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 22:19:57 +0000

[...] Once the dinner is over and the bill comes around, make sure you pay for it. [...]

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:22:26 +0000

lol, with family it’s not so much the big deal. It’s ideally used when you’re in networking meetings.

By: Damon Day

Damon Day — Wed, 02 Sep 2009 23:22:13 +0000

Great points Neal. Typically I will reach for the check when we go out with friends. However most of my friends will then insist on at least paying half. Or they will insist on getting it next time. But it is definitely a good gesture to pick it up and not ignore it like you didn’t see it or something. The only exception is when we go out with my parents or grandparents. Let me tell you my grandfather will throw down if you don’t let him pay the bill . He is a world war 2 vet so I don’t push it. I protest though

Of course whenever I meet a client for lunch or coffee or something of that nature, I will always get the bill.

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 06:15:46 +0000

I’ve done this for many years, so I’m just speaking from experience

By: cash loans uk

cash loans uk — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 19:15:48 +0000

This is one post where I wouldnt totally agree with you. I believe even though people may want to return the favour, the ROI as you mention may not be as much.

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Fri, 27 Feb 2009 00:02:02 +0000

I am not sure if you have to let people to abuse you. You should never let that be the case.

By: Jonathon

Jonathon — Thu, 26 Feb 2009 23:25:30 +0000

I agree I have the same. That’s why we all have to learn how to let other people abuse our generosity; we all have to embrace being a person of velvet and steel.

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 20:06:18 +0000

That sucks. I hate when people do those type of things.

By: Motorcycles for sale

Motorcycles for sale — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 08:20:03 +0000

I thnk its a great idea when dealing with honest people… But I have a friend who always schemes to get the other person to pick up the tab. Even when v go out for eating or any other reason, she loves to claim she left her wallet or other such tricks…:)

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Wed, 16 Apr 2008 04:32:29 +0000

LOL, I just had a problem with a cab driver as well. I was in Germany and took a cab to my hotel from the airport. The thing I did not know was it was a 3 minute cab ride and the cab driver was upset because the ride was not long. He threw his GPS system on the ground in anger even though I said I was sorry and would tip him greatly before hand.

I guess people like that deserve no tip.

By: Mo

Mo — Tue, 15 Apr 2008 06:33:39 +0000

Heh… tipping is always contentious issue when I’m out with family. They hate tipping.

I’ll tip if the service and food is good, but more often than not I tend not to. I’m sure a lot of it is because they (the server) figures “he’s Indian. He won’t tip us anyway, so lets treat him like crap.”.

Too bad, so sad for you.

I had the same problem with a cab driver some time ago. He was all pissed that I used him to transport cargo instead of people and the entire trip he moaned and groaned about it.

I wasn’t going to tip him, but in the end decided to show him how much of a jerk he was and gave him a $1.00. I told him that had he been nicer instead of complaining, I’d have given him the difference between the charge for transporting people versus cargo — which would have been $50.00 or so.

By: Justin Chelf

Justin Chelf — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 00:57:36 +0000

I do this as well and you would be so supirsed how many times later down the road it comes back to you in a huge way!

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 09:00:35 +0000

I mean $120

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 09:00:12 +0000

Ahh….I thought the 180$ was 20$. Thanks

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 08:57:41 +0000

180 + 10 + 735 = 925 before tax

By: Jeff

Jeff — Sun, 09 Mar 2008 02:08:48 +0000

How come the bill doesn’t add up? I get 865$ before tax

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 15:41:32 +0000

I don’t think it is a confidence thing, but more so an obligation. Many people feel that if someone else does something for you, them in return. Or even worse, that you owe them for the meal.

By: JB

JB — Thu, 07 Feb 2008 10:28:01 +0000

one aspect of giving and receiving that I notice some people, particularly selflessly generous people, seem to struggle with, is actually accepting generosity in return.
being open to people talking you up, or sending good things your way, is a hurdle for some people.
maybe it is a confidence thing. what do you think neil?

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 00:03:32 +0000

Thanks for the 101 lesson. I’ll have to do more research on this principle.

By: pennfair

pennfair — Tue, 05 Feb 2008 15:49:54 +0000

The theory is based on the Principile of Market Generosity (Fairhurst et al)1986, that it is not how big the gift or promotionits the lack of obvious ulterior motive. So when we receive a “gift” from a store without any purchase, it has more long term effect than if we must perfom or buy something to qualify. Similarly a friendly card given not for valentines day but just because “I felt like it” would have substatialy more effect.

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 16:49:43 +0000

It is the little things that make a big impact. When I get expensive gifts it usually does not have the same impact as thoughtful ones.

By: Julie, writer surefirewealth.com

Julie, writer surefirewealth.com — Mon, 04 Feb 2008 13:16:12 +0000

It’s a wonderful feeling to be able to do something for others and have them be totally taken by surprise. I don’t usually pick up the tab but I do give them special surprises when they least expect it. Simple things like a bar of their favorite chocolate really brightens up their day. While it doesn’t inconvenience you, it has a great effect on others.

By: Krunal Chauhan

Krunal Chauhan — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 16:16:14 +0000

That could be a good idea Princess.. Would luv to try once .. if would be with you (Loll)

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 15:51:05 +0000

Good luck on the increase! The bigger the meal, the bigger the impact (usually).

By: mike foster

mike foster — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 15:32:52 +0000

i couldnt agree more…btw, im sending this to the guy who sets my client lunch budget…maybe i can get an increase on it…mike.

By: pennfair

pennfair — Tue, 29 Jan 2008 18:01:55 +0000

It makes very good sense and has been a policy among my private bankers for years. Although guests seldom remember who paid for a particular meal/drink, they always remember who never paid. Deep down if they remember you as “the one who always pays” thy feel positive about the experience and in fact a little “taken care of” This puts the payer in a superior position in an otherwise equal relationship moving forward. In other words a sound business policy as well as good social manners.

By: Leonard Klaatu

Leonard Klaatu — Wed, 23 Jan 2008 22:27:21 +0000

But when you’re out with a George Castanza type you get screwed – everytime!

By: Neil Patel

Neil Patel — Sun, 20 Jan 2008 19:23:58 +0000

With Indians a lot of them hating tipping. They usually tip 10% instead of the 20%.